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Ten Things Ministers, Teachers, Parents and Preachers can Learn from Dr....
Today at the gym, Dr. Oz’s show came on the wall-mounted TV right above my treadmill. The words “PANCREATIC CANCER: Early Detection and Prevention” flashed on the screen. In minutes there were about 15...
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Brene Brown on Listening to Shame
Great video featuring Brene Brown discussing her years of research on the power of shame to hinder our lives. Related Posts: Catholic Guilt or Catholic Shame?
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How to Love like Mother Teresa
Its easy to be compassionate toward those whose sin resembles our own, with whom we like, or agree. It takes real grace to be compassionate toward those who push our buttons, turn our stomaches and...
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Blueprints: Achieving and Maintaining a “Healthy Tension” in Ministry and Life
I was fortunate to frame a discussion involving youth ministers from the US and Canada around creating and maintaining a “healthy tension” in ministry and life. A good bit of set up in the first 13 min...
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Why All Relationships Matter
“Our relatedness brings us into reality, provided we are open to it. For instance, we prefer to avoid those people who annoy us, upset us, rub us the wrong way, push our buttons. Yet these are...
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Forgiveness is a Process, Not an Event
Forgiveness is not an event. It is a series of choices allowing God to begin–and continue the process of healing wounds that cause us real pain and give us a false sense of control. It always feels...
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Teens use “Aggravating” to express “Anger”
Many teens and young adults don’t (want to) see themselves as an angry or sad person and use the words “aggravating” and “stupid” to convey those emotions. Instead of asking teens “What are you...
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Boys Will be Boys
As today is the feast of the Baptism of the Lord, I thought this exchange which occurred a few weeks ago in Church between my oldest son Max (7) and me would be apropos: Max: “Daddy! You see dat bird...
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Everyone Else’s Parents…
…let them have an iPhone. …lets them drink. …lets them stay out till ____. …is letting them go to ___ party. …lets them drive their own car. …knows their kids smoke and don’t mind. …are so much cooler...
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When You Feel Like a Horrible Parent…
A few weeks ago I brought my boys to get a hair cut despite their Samsonite pleadings to spare them such inhumane torture and emasculation. As we waited, a 7 year old boy, receiving a hair cut was...
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Why Millennials are Leaving the Church
In the last ten years I’ve been asked thousands of times, “Why are kids leaving the Church?”. In a recent CNN article entitled “Why Millennials are Leaving the Church” Rachel Evans, a millennial...
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Loving Oneself
For many years counselors and spiritual directors have told me “You need to love yourself, Roy.” No doubt, you’ve heard it too. It’s often accompanied by the phrase “You can’t love others until you...
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We Grow at the Rate of Pain
I heard it said once “We grow at the rate of pain.” I figure this to be true. Up until I was 35, I needed to succeed in order to know and trust that I was capable and valid. For me it was marrying a...
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Recreating the “Village” for Today’s Young People
It has always taken a “village” to raise young people and it always will. The needs of developing children are greater than any one family can provide. When I was growing up, we lived in the...
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The Question Behind the Question: What Young People are Really Asking about...
Click on the link below the picture to download Roy’s presentation from LA Congress 2014 Workshop 4-22 Saturday, March 15 at 10 AM.LAREC 2014 Question Behind the Question Related Posts: No Related Posts
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“Wake Me Up When It Matters”: Effectively Calling Young People to Passionate...
See the link below for my second (Sunday) presentation at LA Congress along with “The List of Questions” LAREC 2014-WAKE ME UP WHEN IT MATTERS SHARE COPY PETITFILS-Question Bank Related Posts: No...
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What Your Teen Wants You to Know (Parents UNC Newman Center-Chapel Hill)
Below is the downloadable PDF presentation for parents who were at the workshop this morning at UNC Newman Center. Also below the presentation is the question bank I mentioned. PARENTING Share copy...
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“Just Be Yourself” is Not as Easy as it Sounds
Over lunch with a friend recently, I shared my nervousness about speaking at an upcoming event before a notoriously critical audience. He said, “Roy, don’t worry. Just be yourself.” From Hugh MacLeod’s...
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What Teens Want You to Know but Don’t Tell You–Live Session
In 20 years of working with young people as a youth minister, campus minister and today as a counselor, I have spent many hours listening to young people. I knew they were telling me things they were...
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Being the Change You Wish to See
What am I willing to change in myself today so that peace is possible? If Im not willing to be a more peaceful husband, dad, friend, driver, school uniform shopper then I cannot demand that same peace...
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